We are often encouraged to set goals for ourselves, so we come out of a situation with something. Research & due diligence has been done by many to understand how to make our goals clearer and measurable so we get results. S.M.A.R.T. objectives are a great example of how one can create a goal to help you “improve.”
I want to challenge us (me included) to consider another option than “improve”. Let me better explain this thought of mine:
I just got home from an 8-day vacation yesterday; A fantastic combination of sunshine/beach, activity, food + drink, and friend time.
And I COULD say that today’s goal is to “lose __ pounds by March 15th and here’s the specific how-to list of what I’m going to do, to make it happen”.
If I listed out the details for us, we’d see that I have a S.M.A.R.T. goal.
I want more than a S.M.A.R.T. goal.
Sure, S.M.A.R.T. goals are good for a lot of reasons including clear steps to make something happen with timeline and accountability.
Here’s what I want for us:
I’ve just come back from 8 days of luxury eating.
I can write a REALLY good S.M.A.R.T. goal to take this weight back off my body yet how am I going to own it?! I’m not. (Can you tell I’ve been on this ride before?!)
Instead I need to connect with what I want.
To get there, I consider the end goal or where I want to get to.
Using the weight example: When I am at my ‘preferred’ weight I feel good in my skin. I move well on the tennis court, my clothes fit comfortably, I move better and I have a spring in my step.
Hear how I am connecting to the want of the weight off? Versus a robotic “follow these steps to lose ___ pounds”.
Once we figure out the connection point, here are some questions you can ask yourself to go deeper with it (and a reminder – write out your answers versus saying them in your head.):
What about this goal makes it both a want and a need?
Obtaining this, how will you look and feel?
How will making this happen better connect you to your values?
What do you lose daily, by not being/having/doing this?
Somewhere in the answering of your questions is where you need to go with the goal. That will take you to a finish line win worth doing the training for.
This connection focus can work for any S.M.A.R.T. goal.
Work or play.
My want is for you to consider where you want to land (within yourself) by achieving your goal, versus the goal itself.
Because if you align this with who you are when you are in your element, in my opinion, the world becomes a better place :0)
Happy Wednesday! xo